Extended Lovemaking Principles and Practices
I was featured on Organic Sexuality with Rahi Chun
We explore:
How Extended Lovemaking invites a focus on pleasure and tending to everything that arises – including and especially being present to the moment-by-moment sensations, emotions, and desires, rather than being goal or performance-oriented.
How ELM necessitates a container of safety and trust in order to surrender to and ride erotic states that touche into our inner aspects and younger selves, as well as metabolizing past wounds within the support of deep connection, relaxation, and expansion.
How “The 8 Pillars of Intimacy” are at the heart of relating intimately with self, in order to move deeply into a container of relating with each other.
How examining our psychological attachments to orgasm is necessary in order to edge for extended periods of time, and travel the infinite waves of pleasure peaks without needing to go over the edge.
How ELM invites and necessitates a depth of self-awareness regarding the conditioned physiological/psychological train tracks the body’s unconscious response often has from arousal to orgasm, and for some, how orgasm can become a way to avoid prolonged authentic intimacy.
How the more we understand our partner’s nervous system patterns, the more of an ally we can be in our lovemaking by not take triggers personally, and how staying present and bringing pleasure in those triggered moments, can re-write past patterns and stories in the body.
How ELM invites discoveries of how to make love that is not genitally-focussed leading to a re-writing of what sex even is and can be.
How in slowing down, the body can become more sensitive, tuning into the greater subtle energies which is counter to what we’ve been taught about going fast and hard, and can lead to a deepening desire for more sexual communion within a constant state of turn-on.
How following waves of pleasure with stillness and meditation, allows the moments and portals of pleasure to elongate, expanding states of arousal into altered states of consciousness – where boundaries between lovers and existence itself begin to evolve into feelings of oneness, wholeness, and completeness.