The Erotic Frontier:
Articles & Field Notes
These writings explore sexuality, intimacy, embodiment, relationships, power, and healing.
At their heart, they are all asking the same question:
What becomes possible when we learn to relate differently?
To our bodies. To desire. To pleasure. To each other. To power itself.
Some articles answer practical questions about intimacy, consent, embodiment, and sexual healing. Others offer a window into the relational work I do with individuals and couples through Eros Alchemy private sessions. Others follow the deeper threads that connect these experiences to the ways we live, love, create, and move through the world.
My hope is that these writings don't simply give you new ideas. I hope they help you ignite curiosity around your relationship with yourself.
Somatic Sexual Healing vs. Talk Therapy: Why the Body Has to Be Included
On the difference between talking about intimacy and practicing it, and why the body needs corrective experiences to create lasting change.
Who Is Somatic Sexual Healing For? (And Who It Isn't)
On what it means to be ready for somatic sexual healing, and why lasting change begins when the body has enough safety to receive new experiences.
How to Build Deeper Emotional and Sexual Intimacy: The Eight Pillars of Intimacy™
On how emotional and sexual intimacy are built, and the eight capacities that allow love, trust, and genuine connection to grow.
What Is Embodiment? The Practice of Coming Home to Yourself
On what embodiment really means, why so many of us live disconnected from our bodies, and why returning to ourselves changes the way we love, relate, and live.
Why So Many Women Hide Their Sexuality
What my cervix had to teach me about nervous system safety, sexual shame, and what became possible when I stopped hiding my erotic self.
Why We Betray Ourselves in Relationships
On the reckoning we must have with ourselves if we want a deeper level of intimacy. The honest look at what we’ve participated in, what we’ve survived, and what we’ve carried growing up in an extractive, repressive, objectifying sexual culture.
How To Feel More During Sex
On why feeling more during sex has less to do with technique than nervous system safety, presence, and learning to listen to your body.
Somatic Sexual Healing: How Eros Alchemy Supports Pleasure, Intimacy & Transformation
On what somatic sexual healing actually is, why the body has to be included, and how Eros Alchemy helps transform the patterns that keep us disconnected from ourselves and each other.
Men's Sexual Healing: What Happens in a Somatic Healing Session
On the kind of relational space most men have never experienced, and what happens when desire, shame, and tenderness are finally welcomed together.
Why Do I Feel Empty After Sex?
On the difference between performing pleasure and actually feeling it, and what it takes to stop feeding the patterns that keep us numb.
Why Doesn’t Sex Feel Good Anymore?
On the goal-oriented sex script we inherited, why it keeps so many of us disconnected, and what sex looks like when presence replaces performance.
What is Somatic Consent?
On why consent is more than a yes or no, and how learning to listen to the body transforms intimacy, boundaries, and connection.
If you'd like to continue exploring, you'll find more personal essays and ongoing reflections at The Erotic Frontier on Substack, where I publish new writing as it unfolds.