The Erotic Frontier:
Articles & Field Notes
These writings explore sexuality, intimacy, embodiment, relationships, power, and healing.
At their heart, they are all asking the same question:
What becomes possible when we learn to relate differently?
To our bodies. To desire. To pleasure. To each other. To power itself.
Some articles answer practical questions about intimacy, consent, embodiment, and sexual healing. Others offer a window into the relational work I do with individuals and couples through Eros Alchemy private containers. Others follow the deeper threads that connect these experiences to the ways we live, love, create, and move through the world.
My hope is that these writings don't simply give you new ideas. I hope they help you ignite curiosity around your relationship with yourself.
Why Is It So Hard to Say No to Sex? The Fawn Response and the Fear of Losing Connection
Explore how fawning, people-pleasing, gender expectations, and fear of rejection can lead us to agree to sex we don't want.
Why Do I Feel So Much Pressure During Sex? Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety
Learn how to overcome sexual performance anxiety by understanding how stress, nervous system responses, and sexual expectations affect pleasure and intimacy.
Why Do I Feel Empty After Sex?
On the difference between performing pleasure and actually feeling it, and what it takes to stop feeding the patterns that keep us numb.
Why Doesn’t Sex Feel Good Anymore?
On the goal-oriented sex script we inherited, why it keeps so many of us disconnected, and what sex looks like when presence replaces performance.
If you'd like to continue exploring, you'll find more personal essays and ongoing reflections at The Erotic Frontier on Substack, where I publish new writing as it unfolds.