The Erotic Frontier:
Articles & Field Notes
These writings explore sexuality, intimacy, embodiment, relationships, power, and healing.
At their heart, they are all asking the same question:
What becomes possible when we learn to relate differently?
To our bodies. To desire. To pleasure. To each other. To power itself.
Some articles answer practical questions about intimacy, consent, embodiment, and sexual healing. Others offer a window into the relational work I do with individuals and couples through Eros Alchemy private containers. Others follow the deeper threads that connect these experiences to the ways we live, love, create, and move through the world.
My hope is that these writings don't simply give you new ideas. I hope they help you ignite curiosity around your relationship with yourself.
When Pleasure Brings Up Grief
Why can pleasure bring up grief, trauma, or numbness? A personal exploration of how erotic practice helped me reconnect with my body and expand my capacity for pleasure.
Healing From Sexual Abuse: What I Wish I’d Known About Reclaiming My Body, Intimacy, and Pleasure
A survivor’s reflections on healing from sexual abuse, rebuilding safety and trust in the body, and reclaiming intimacy, desire, and pleasure.
Somatic Sexual Healing vs. Talk Therapy: Why the Body Has to Be Included
On the difference between talking about intimacy and practicing it, and why the body needs corrective experiences to create lasting change.
Who Is Somatic Sexual Healing For? (And Who It Isn't)
On what it means to be ready for somatic sexual healing, and why lasting change begins when the body has enough safety to receive new experiences.
What Is Embodiment? The Practice of Coming Home to Yourself
On what embodiment really means, why so many of us live disconnected from our bodies, and why returning to ourselves changes the way we love, relate, and live.
How To Feel More During Sex
On why feeling more during sex has less to do with technique than nervous system safety, presence, and learning to listen to your body.
Somatic Sexual Healing: How Eros Alchemy Supports Pleasure, Intimacy & Transformation
On what somatic sexual healing actually is, why the body has to be included, and how Eros Alchemy helps transform the patterns that keep us disconnected from ourselves and each other.
Men's Sexual Healing: What Happens in a Somatic Healing Session
On the kind of relational space most men have never experienced, and what happens when desire, shame, and tenderness are finally welcomed together.
What is Somatic Consent?
On why consent is more than a yes or no, and how learning to listen to the body transforms intimacy, boundaries, and connection.
If you'd like to continue exploring, you'll find more personal essays and ongoing reflections at The Erotic Frontier on Substack, where I publish new writing as it unfolds.